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Paulien Persoonlijk 10 nov 2018

Deze illustraties tonen de stille strijd van postnatale depressie

Maar liefst 1 op 6 vrouwen in België heeft last van een postnatale depressie. Veel vrouwen omschrijven deze ervaring als isolerend en eenzaam. Ze voel zich ook vaak schuldig. Daar wil Karen Kleiman iets aan doen met een sensibiliseringscampagne.

Het perfecte plaatje

Iedereen wil de perfecte moeder zijn, maar als je in je omgeving en op sociale media niets anders ziet dan perfect uitgeruste en gelukkige mama’s, dan denk je al snel dat je iets behoorlijk fout doet. Vrouwen met een postnatale depressie voelen zich vaak schuldig over het feit dat ze niet gelukkig zijn in de periode wanneer iedereen gelukkig hoort te zijn.

Karen Kleiman introduceerde hiervoor de hashtag #speakthesecret waarbij ze vrouwen wil aanmoedigen om die moeilijke momenten te bespreken. Want niemand hoeft alleen te staan in die strijd.

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So many new parents feel this way and they can feel that they are the only ones feeling like this, like there is something “wrong” with them. ? You are not alone, you are not broken, you are not doing it wrong. You are responding to a life changing event and you are feeling overwhelmed. It will pass. It will start to feel easier, but do get help. ? Get help by letting someone in on how you feel. A friend, your partner, your GP, health visitor, a therapist. You can say “I am finding this harder than I thought I would and I really need some help”. ? . . . . #speakthesecret #postpartum #postpartumdepression #anxiety #youarenotalone #nestpsychotherapyandcounselling #pictonnsw #pictontherapist #camdennsw #wollondilly #southernhighlands #southernhighlandstherapy #parenting #newparents #holistichealing #rainbowfamilies

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Speak the secret

Kleiman is sociaal werker en ziet dat veel moeders met dezelfde angsten en gevoelens zitten. Ze wil deze nieuwbakken moeders aanmoedigen om er met elkaar over te praten en op die manier het taboe rond postnatale depressie te doorbreken.

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It’s time to start being honest with each other. @postpartumstress thank you for including us. #speakthesecret

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Bij elke illustratie zie je wat de jonge moeder zegt en wat ze eigenlijk denkt. Kleiman vertelt dat veel moeders naar aanleiding van deze eerlijke tekeningen hun negatieve gedachten opschreven.

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Do you know what your breaking point is? • Can you feel it coming before it makes you feel out of control? • Can you feel your emotions and your physical reactions escalating? • Do you know how to manage this so you and your family are able to get your needs met? • Do you know how to communicate the warning signs to your partner? • Are you good at expressing what you need at the moment you need help? #talkaboutwhatyouneed #findasafeword #speakthesecret #askforhelp #goodmothershavescarythoughts ?speak yours here: https://goo.gl/3oGKJj @brooklyn_rabbit @familiustalk

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Overweldigende reacties

Naar aanleiding van deze campagne deelden veel moeders hun verhaal op sociale media. Sommige deden dat in tekstvorm, anderen met openhartige foto’s. Elke eerlijke moeder kan op enorm veel steun rekenen.

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"My throat burns, my eyes hurt, I’m tired, shaking, and ashamed…THIS is real motherhood. Before you send me your love notes saying 'you’re doing a great job, momma,' or your advice, 'have you tried…??,' let me say this, as much as I love your support and guidance, I post these moments not for me, but because society has created this monster in motherhood. This monster that says we are supposed to be perfect, look perfect, and post the pretty. I, personally, feel so isolated by the image society has created for me, scared that in these moments when I should feel like I need to reach out for help, I will be judged instead. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I think one of the hard parts of motherhood is that you can have a wonderful, engaged, memorable even day with your children and STILL have moments like these, moments when you question your sanity, moments when you question your ability, moments that crush you. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What am I crying about? Well, it could be a mixture of many things. Lack of sleep due to teething and my rigorous schedule, lack of time for myself, lack of naps, anxiety, depression, relationships, money, housekeeping, feedings, threenager, infants, twins…what DON’T moms have to deal with? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ In the end, it doesn’t matter why. My kids are alive and healthy (thank God!), and I could have much bigger things to cry about. But, that doesn’t make me any less ashamed for yelling at my kids, having feelings that don’t make me 'normal' according to society’s mom standards, putting my twins to bed early, or needing a second to myself and hiding in a room away from my three year old while he watches TV. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Please, don’t feel sorry for me and please be gentle (with everyone, you never know what people are going through!). I just feel like this is my civic duty to post and tell whoever’s out there right now crying that you aren’t alone, that you are normal and that it’s going to be alright." ?: @mrskyleeaustin @melthedoula #RawTalk #RawMotherhood #RealLife #Realmotherhood

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It’s taken me nearly four years to admit and ‘say out loud’ that this is one of my scary thoughts.

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Check out this awesome post ❤️by @goodyhoran who bravely illustrates both her sweet soul and her gift for artistic expression. We appreciate you giving a nod to @postpartumstress for inspiration and support but the inner strength, the courage and the talent are yours. ??❤️ #speakthesecret #GoodMomsHaveScaryThoughts @familiustalk • #Repost @goodyhoran with @get_repost ・・・ Inspired by my discovery of @postpartumstress and their honest, relieving and important posts, I am reposting this little bit of reminiscence. #realmotherhood #GoodMomsHaveScaryThoughts

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Goede moeders hebben enge gedachten

Kleiman hoopte vanaf het begin van deze campagne alle illustraties te bundelen en een boek uit te brengen met nog meer informatie voor moeders. Dat wordt nu realiteit. Het boek getiteld ‘Good moms have scary thoughts’ wordt nu geproduceerd en is verkrijgbaar vanaf maart.

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At your most vulnerable moments, when you are alone, when you are trying to sleep, when you are naked, when you are exhausted, worried, and depleted – scary thoughts can emerge and make you feel worse. Often they focus on your health or the health of your baby. • Try not to empower them. Take a deep breath and distract your brain. Find something to look at, or touch, or listen to that helps you feel more grounded. • #speakthesecret #goodmomshavescarythoughts #anxiety #universal @familiustalk @brooklyn_rabbit

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