Dit Instagram-account schetst exact hoe het is om mama te zijn

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Paula Kuka is de creatieve mama van een driejarige zoon en een dochter van tien maanden. Toen haar dochtertje geboren was, begon ze dagdagelijkse gebeurtenissen om te zetten in cartoons.

Deze treffende tekeningen vind je terug op haar Instagram-account @common_wild. Deze tekeningen zijn ongetwijfeld herkenbaar voor elke mama en hilarisch op de koop toe.

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I am guilty of this. I see a perfectly polished mum and I think "wow, what a great mum, she's got her shit together". Next minute a bedraggled mum walks past and I think "she's a great mum, she's too dedicated to her kids to focus on herself." Someone pulls out a handmade healthy snack and I'm cringing at the packet of biscuits I opened a week ago. Everywhere I look, everyone is winning mum medals. And for some reason I can't stop thinking about what I could do better. It never pays to compare your bloopers reel to someone elses highlights. . I'm sure I'm not alone in this… I need to start being my own cheerleader. I need to focus more on what I AM doing and not on what I'm not. So here's a challenge… finish this sentence…. "I'm a great mum because…" . I'll be brave and start. I'm a great mum because…. I have totally given up all traces of dairy and soy while breastfeeding both my intolerant babies… That's 23 months and counting…. No cheese… No icecream…no sushi (because sushi without soy is 🤷‍♀️)… And a whole lot of meticulously reading labels and hassling waitstaff (on the handful of times I've eaten out). 🏅🏅🏅 Now that's worth a few mum medals, surely? . (By the way, it took me ages to come up with something to say… And it feels pretty uncomfortable. Must work on that). . Now it's your turn. And remember, saying you did something well is not the same thing as criticising someome who did things differently. It's not about anyone else. Its about you. 🏆💕

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Balance. This is how I feel about it. The word makes me feel uncomfortable. I don’t have it. I don’t want it. I don’t think it even really exists. ⚖️ Balance implies you can easily compartmentalise you life into neat packages that sit politely on scales in perfect harmony. But you can’t neatly compartmentalise your life.  Have you met a three year old?? They aren’t easily boxed up. And there is nothing neat about running a business from home while trying to keep a family afloat. ⚖️ And I love that. It’s messy. Its chaotic. It’s very, very busy. Ideas come to me in the middle of the night. I never stop thinking about new drawings I want to do. I discuss  garden design ideas with my three year old. I pack orders at the dining table while they finish their dinner. I drag my kids to plant nurseries and get their opinion on plant selection (and occasionally I even take it onboard). I’m always discussing new project ideas with anyone who will listen. I want my children to watch their mother working hard at something she absolutely loves.  Passion is contagious. ⚖️ If I was striving for balance, I would no doubt feel like I was failing at every aspect of my life. But I’m not. I’m creating an awesomely intermingled jigsaw puzzle of ‘work’ and ‘life’ and I don’t know where when one ends and the next begins. And that’s EXACTLY how I want it to be.

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Every. Time. 🤦‍♀️

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To you I am as strong as Hercules.

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Haven't I done enough? 😉🍰

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The day before my second child was born I made this exact promise. If the birth went smoothly, and my baby was healthy, this time around, I would not obsess about the small things. In some ways, I was more worried second time around, because I was concerned about the impact it was going to have on my first born. "How would he cope if I had to stay in hospital… He needs me so much." . Well it did all go smoothly and two hours after I arrived at the hospital I was holding a chubby, pink, squeaking newborn in my arms. Four hours later I was ready to take her home. So with slightly less glamour than the Duchess, we bundled our new baby into the car and swung past Mcdonalds on the way home for a cheeseburger. Birthing is hungry work! 👶🏼🍔🍟 Do I worry less with my second baby? Absolutely. Do I still worry? ALL THE TIME. 🤔🙄

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I know a lot of you have seen this drawing a hundred times but I do have a reason for reposting it. The first time I posted it I didn’t watermark it (because I think they look nicer without watermarks 🤦‍♀️). It has been reposted by a number of large accounts and as a small business this is such a powerful thing. To give you an example the wonderful @mommywinetime posted it on Saturday and in the next 24 hours I got 700 new followers and 3 inquiries for commissions. That is absolutely huge! I am so, so grateful for her beautiful post. . I have also been shared by a few large accounts and not been credited. They might credit where they got the image from, but this is actually not enough. Legalities aside, they are missing the opportunity to provide a such an incredible boost to a totally unknown illustrator and a tiny little business. . Part of me is just happy that my work is being shared and making other people smile. But these posts represent me wearing my heart on my sleeve and feel so personal to me. And more importantly, I am running a business and working bloody hard to build a profile. So, thank you to everyone who has ever reposted my illustrations. It doesn’t matter what size your account is, it all helps! And if you are ever reposting something you see on Instagram please try and follow it back to the original source. You have no idea of the impact that can have on one little person. 🙌

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Kids are weird.

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Something is missing! 🤔✂ 🚗

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Happy Birthday to me. 🎁

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